Here’s the deal: Professional hairstyles for natural hair are becoming a very big topic of conversation lately.
With the up-rise of the natural hair movement and the large number of black women working in corporate America, it was bound to become a topic of conversation.
Do you work in corporate America?
Do you have plans to work a corporate job and keep your natural hair?
Well these women do and they talk about the challenges they face, silly questions they answer and the mental strength needed to be comfortable in their own hair when many people are not yet accustomed to seeing it or even understanding it.
Professional hairstyles for natural hair in the corporate world is often a matter of opinion, but when most of those that surround you have opinions based on lack of knowledge or exposure, how would you handle yourself?
That's what makes this video interview about corporate hairstyles for natural hair interesting.
The questions that these women have to face on a daily basis are quite revealing and has caused some to shy away from enjoying their natural hair to the fullest. Check out the video below and let me know in the comment section if you have any ideas of corporate hairstyles for curly hair that you will be rockin' while you're clockin' dollars.
Lee's Video Highlights:
One of the women expressed her frustration about not being able to just "go to work and do your job" as a natural in corporate America.
Although the women are proud to be natural, they do admit that it can be a challenge. Especially when having to answer questions like, "Do you wash your hair everyday?". It's not always comfortable answering a million questions.
One of the corporate women was told while going through law school that "You're never going to make it natural", but years later she still is and happy for it.
So she got a nice deep conditioning treatment while giggling the whole time at hubby.... Check it out.
Perming Natural Hair Joke - Revenge Prank
Favorite Comments from Fake Perm Video
Jessica Peyton says...
"Girl you should have come out there crying with a scarf around your head and told him your hair was falling out and made a big deal of not wanting him to see it, and THEN take the scarf off and show him your full head of natural hair! Muahahahaha!"
"Can I get an Amen for an African American man whose feeling is STILL hurt because you want a perm! Lord bring them back!!"
"You could see the pride in his eyes diminish when he saw his wife putting that chemical cream or so he thought on her hair. After that, she was getting the shun treatment. But he was very relieved at the end but tried not to seem phased by it.
And continued to let her know that knowing who you are and what you stand for is what's important and that she was being wishy-washy because she got him on the prank lol And that jokes about diluting your African heritage was unacceptable. Which is a good thing he is a man who enjoys exactly what he has and that it doesn't need to change."
Products Used In Her FAKE Perm - REAL Deep Conditioner Recipe
I almost didn't post this video because of its title, but seeing how much of a positive reaction Sophie got in the comment section, I felt this was a message that many of us can relate to.
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Here's an example of one of the comments....
"FACTS ON FACTS ON FACTS!!! I’m not sure how I discovered your channel but I’m glad I did( new subscriber!) . Just from this video alone not only were you spilling tea but you had receipts (in the forms of tweets,video clips, articles, etc)
I feel like I have nothing to add because you covered everything. At least now when I get into an argument/debate about this I can send this & go about my day. This video was so well done."
So I want you all to check it out and you all know that the BlackHairOMG family shows LOVE, so if you are feeling her video and message, subscribe to the sistas channel, she's trying to get to 10,000 subscribers.
And tell her BlackHairOMG sent you!
VIDEO: Why I hate The Natural Hair Community!
Here's another comment that was totally agreeing with and loving the message....
"First off, I totally agree with you on this. The only time a blogger with 4C hair gets love is when he/she makes their 4C hair look like something other than 4C hair. BUT... that's our fault. The problem is that those in the natural hair movement want to be inclusive, to a fault.
The movement was started by 4C black women who were tired of having their natural hair rejected and were tired of being pressured by society to manipulate and change their hair to the point of damaging it..."
So pleaaaase remember that when you watch this AMAZING video with SCIENTIFIC and FACTUAL information about the effects of relaxing natural hair.
I don't want any of my relaxed-hair sistas to get defensive, because we'd never come at you crazy.
I feel you should do whatever you want to do with your hair. We just want you to know what is happening, that's all we care about.
This Video from GreenBeauty is in the BlackHairOMG spotlight today because she is so respectful and scientific about the information that I couldn't help but shine some light on this info, so check it out!
VIDEO: What a Relaxer is Really Doing to Your Natural Hair
I have relaxed my hair in the past, most of us have. I still LOVE straight styles and I like to see us achieve them without chemically-altering the hair.
But we don't make any hair "laws" over here. I hope you got some good information from vid and that you make ALL your hair decisions armed with the knowledge needed to enjoy gorgeous hair for years and years, even into old age.
When you have kinky hair it's soooo easy to get kinks and knots. Wearing stretched styles eliminates that problem.
Sin #7 - Think Deep Conditioning Is a Special Event
No, No, No! You can deep condition every week! Don't wait til you have a hair emergency or you start feeling dryness. Deep condition weekly (or as much as possible), it's a hair saver!
Sin #8 - You saying, "Aaah, Porosity, Smorosity... WHATEVAH..."
You need to understand your hair porosity level. You think we out here Bull-Jivín' when we bring up porosity? That is critical knowledge for understanding your specific needs when you are trying to moisturize and stay moisturized. Without proper and constant moisture..... SNAP CRACKLE POP baaaaaby. Get it together.
Sin #9 - Using Moisturizers That Don't Match Your Hair type
This goes back to #8 a lil' bit, because how will you know the best moisturizer for your hair if you don't know what type of hair you have?
Also, if you have chemically-damaged hair from perming or dyeing that is a clue as to what types of moisturizers to use and avoid. Weather-damaged hair has different moisturizing needs as well. That's why BlackHairOMG is here to teach you what you need to know 🙂
Sin #10 - Oiling Without Moisturizing FIRST
Where would we be without amazing hair oils??? They are a MUST, a staple, a God-send! BUUUUUTTTTT!!!!
A Big Ol' But.
One MAJOR confusion many of us have is that oils actually moisturize. They do not.
Moisture comes from water, oils and nutrients and SEAL IN moisture.
Listen, very-light oils with smaller molecular particles actually penetrate your hair follicles to deliver nutrients and then seal that moisture in.
Heavier oils with larger molecular particles do not penetrate, they simply coat and seal whatever moisture you already have infused.
Either way, if you seal your hair without first infusing it with moisture through some kind of moisturizing cream, co-wash, leave-in condition, etc. It's like tying the end of a balloon that's filled with air, and expecting to see water inside afterwards.
No, if you want a water balloon, you put water in first THEN you seal the balloon. So always keep that in mind.
Oil does not moisturize, but PENETRATING OILS, like Moroccan argan oil, do super-charge your moisturized hair with healthy nutrients and seals all that goodness inside. that's a recipe for some booty-length hair if you stick to a healthy regimen.
OK, chill out. Don't go all Wakanda warrior princess on my behind for dissin' shea butter and coconut oil. Ya hear me? Haa!
Look, before y'all come for me. Just know this...
1st, you can't come for me until I send for you, that's my rule. Put some RESPECK ON IT. Lol...
2nd, This Shea Butter slanderaint comin' from me! So don't shoot the messenger.
I do want this information from professional hairstylist Aeleise Jana to be heard though. Because MANY naturals still are struggling with their hair regimen.
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Because they just do what they see working for others and automatically expect the same results. Many times that's a mistake.
So, alot of y'all gonna think this sista has lost her mind because she says “Stop with the coconut oil and shea butter.”
I already know. Stop being mean sis, let her speak...
Because for SOME WOMEN and their unique hair needs, maybe she has thebest advice that they'll hardly ever hear anywhere else.
Who "Talking Crazy" Bout My Coconut Oil and Shea?
So let me introduce you too Aeleise Jana, she’s a professional natural hairstylist (I'll post a video from her below), Aeleise is a self-professed “Curl Geek” whose seen 100's of natural hair clients who’ve had the same common issues.
They ALL suffered from dried out, frizzy, crunchy hair.
What did they ALL have in common???
They were putting coconut oil and shea butter on their hair like it was going out of style!
Her 5 Issues w/ Coconut Oil & Shea - SEE IF YOU AGREE!
#1 - They cause build up.
So you’re an avid user of coconut oil/shea butter and you use it religiously. Not only do you think this is the holy grail to your hair regimen, you’re probably also insistent about using sulfate-free shampoos. Often a sulfate-free shampoo or co-wash doesn’t include surfactant (cleansing) agents that are strong enough to remove gunky buildup.
Repeating this process over and over again without clarifying and soon enough you can end up suffering from permanently dry hair.
Aleise advises that reducing or eliminating the use of coconut oil and shea butter eliminates the need for harsher, more powerful shampoos.
Also, when we think of hair oils and butters, coconut and shea are among the heaviest.
So heavy, that they can create a barrier between your hair shaft and water. Aeleise says, “Shea butter and coconut oil used the way most consumers do suffocates the hair and scalp. Moisture = water. Oil= sealant. If you don’t clarify the oil layer off of the hair and allow water to get into the cuticle you’re moisturizing dry hair.”
The actual moisturizing agent, water, is being blocked from entering the cuticle. Ouch!
#2 - They lead to dry hair.
Sure, you might think that the sheen from coconut oil/shea butter you see on your hair means that it’s moisturized. Well....
According to Aeleise, “Water evaporates in 4-7 days from hair so adding coconut oil or shea butter to dry hair then co-washing or using weaker sulfate- free shampoos contributes to the experience of dry hair.”
#3 - They cause frizz.
When hair is shampooed and sealed with either coconut oil or shea, the hair is blocked from absorbing any moisture from the atmosphere. According to Aeleise, “Anything on top of that already closed cuticle seals water in and out.” In the case of coconut oil and shea butter, we are sealing water out of the hair, thus not allowing it to gain entrance to our hair strands.
She further goes on to explain, “Once the water stored in the hair evaporates [after] 4-7 days, the hair reaches out to the atmosphere for water (i.e. dry, rough, frizzy hair).”
#4 - They do not moisturize the hair.
Water=Moisture. Oil=Sealent. “There’s no need for oils (natural or petroleum based) on the hair but for sealing or lubrication. A healthy scalp contains sebaceous glands that provide a protective layer for the scalp skin. Light oils that form a protective barrier around the hair strand are fine. What’s not okay is an absorbed oil (coconut oil and shea butter) that blocks water out of the hair strand.”
#5 - They’re not water soluble.
Aeleise suggests, “alternative ingredients like aloe vera, jojoba oil, almond oil, marshmallow root, etc. that are water-soluble or able to be easily removed with a light cleanser serve the hair better. Also, a properly formulated lower ph conditioner does the job of closing the cuticle down over the water therefore sealing.”
Aeleise's "Hydrate + Define: How I Add Water To My Wash & Go" VIDEO
Listen... She's NOT a "YouTuber", but she has made a few videos... Don't judge her advice on the fact that she doesn't use YouTube to pay her bills. It's not her focus. Helping naturals with their hair IN-PERSON is her profession... Here's the vid.
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1. FORMALDEHYDE: This is not only a product used in some hair products but in MANY nail polishes, formaldehyde should definitely be a "NO-GO" in the hair lines you choose to use.
It's often used in hair care products containing water to slow bacteria growth. That's all well and good but Formaldehyde is a suspected carcinogen and may cause skin reactions, lead to joint pain, allergies, trigger heart palpitations, headaches, ear infections, dizziness, and chest pains. (Join 17,700+ Lovely Sistas who are getting smart, fast hair growth tips)
2. METHYLENE GLYCOL: Beware.... This is nothing more than Formaldehyde by another name.
Leading hair straighteners, including Brazilian Blowout, claim that formaldehyde mixed with water creates a new chemical, methylene glycol. That is like saying that sweet tea does not contain sugar.
3. ISOPROPYL ALCOHOL: This ingredient has the MAJOR potential to dry your hair out and cause serious breakage! It can be found in cosmetics, hand lotion, and hair color rinses. Natural hair of African descent does not interact with this ingredient well at all.
This ingredient can also cause dizziness, depression, headaches, and nausea if inhaled directly. Definitely crossing this off of my list of ingredients I allow/turn a blind eye to. If you see Isopropyl alcohol in your ingredient list toss it (especially if it is listed in the top 10 ingredients on the list)
4. PROPYLENE GLYCOL: It's always troubling when products that are used for other non-human related things are used in a hair product or ingredient that has to come in contact with our skin. This is one of them.
Propylene glycol is used as the main ingredient in antifreeze if you can believe that!
People who work with this substance are told to wear gloves since it easily penetrates the skin, however we apply this humectant to our bodies quite frequently (deodorant, makeup, toothpaste, hair care products…etc) without any form of protection.
This chemical is stated to cause dry skin, dermatitis, hives, eczema, and other allergic reactions.
5. IMIDAZOLIDINYL UREA and DMDM HYDANTOIN: Thought we'd finished talking about formaldehyde? I wish... These ingredients actually release formaldehyde (ugh!) They can cause irritation to your respiratory system and create heart palpitations!
6. DEA (diethanolamine) MEA (momoethnanolamine) TEA (triethanolamine): DEA and MEA are hormone disrupting chemicals that are usually listed with the compound being neutralized.
Most beauty products contain this like bubble baths, body washes, facial cleansers, and soap. These ingredients if absorbed into the skin frequently can lead to liver and kidney cancer.
They also lead to dry hair and skin. Which is why they are a big no-no for your hair care regimen. Even natural products use DEA and MEA on occasion which is why it is still important to read the label of a “natural” or “organic” product! ( Get FREE Hair Growth Tips for 4c Hair HERE)
7. SODIUM LAURYL SUFATE (SLS) & SODIUM LAURETH SULFATE (SLES): This product is a detergent used in most shampoos and foaming properties. SLS strips your hair of its natural oils and leave it dry and brittle.
Because they are cheap ingredients they are used in most personal care produces and is used in testing labs as the standard to irritate skin.
If you use shampoo with SLS there is a possibility that it may be absorbed into the body which is not a good thing at all.
Too much presence of nitrates can become toxic in the body. This ingredient can stay in your body for up to five days, and it may be damaging to the immune system especially in through your skin.
Sodium Laureth Sulfate (SLES)– SLES is the alcohol form (ethoxylated) of SLS. It is slightly less irritating than SLS, but may be more drying. Both ingredients can be absorbed into the blood stream through the skin.
If you’ve found any of these ingredients on your product list are you considering throwing them out or finishing the product? Let us know we’re interested to see how you’ve responded to this list!
Always check your ingredient list carefully and make sure you are aware of what is going in and on your body!
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When a natural-haired woman from Marietta, Georgia made her appointment at Lucy’s Dominican Hair Salon, she assumed that the "blow out" hairstyle that she’d asked for would consist of a simple shampooing, conditioning, and of course, blow drying. When she first left the salon she was happy, but 3 days later, she noticed something weird when she washed her hair so that she could put into twists.
But for some strange reason, her luscious hair refused to curl as it ALWAYS DID and she noticed that large sections of her hair appeared to be unusually straight. When she called the hair salon to ask what IN THE WORLD they had done to her hair, they told her that they'd put chemical perm relaxer in her shampoo without her knowing about it!
As anyone with naturally curly, kinky hair black woman will tell to you, using any amount of chemical relaxer isn’t something that you do casually as if trying a new hair spritz or something. The active ingredients in most relaxers are alkaline chemicals like lye or ammonium sulfate that have a pH somewhere between 10 and 14. The hair damaging properties of these substances break down hair’s protein structure. Cases in which relaxer is left in for too long can result in severely damaged hair and burning of the scalp.
According to the woman, a representative from the salon informed her that it was standard procedure to mix a small amount of relaxer into the shampoo used for people with natural hair and that it wasn’t cause for concern. Lisbeth Dominican Hair Salon, which the woman also called out in the original post, made a point of posting to Facebook that they did not make a practice of mixing relaxer in with shampoo.
After the woman posted photos of her now processed hair as a warning to women with natural hair who might patronize the salon, the natural hair community quickly came to the consensus that the woman would be well justified if she decided to sue the salon.
“This is one of the NO-GO’s for my naturalistas,” Yelp user Tosha W. wrote in a critical review of the salon prompted by the screenshot. “Mixing a perm in with the shampoo without consent is just as tacky as a hair salon can get.”
And we'd have to agree, for any salon to slip a major hair killer into a clients shampoo without getting permission is almost a low-level crime in my opinion. How is that any different that punching a hole in someone's tire on purpose?
How would you have handled this situation OMGers? Would you have sued?
One of the biggest reasons women with curly & kinky hair have a problem with shrinkage is because so many people outside of black culture or natural hair culture have NO IDEA that you are blessed with so much hair. They think that if your kinky/curl hair is sitting at 7 inches, you only have 7 inches of hair.
That is how life is for women with straight hair, but many curly-haired naturals that have hair sitting at 7 inches in front of the naked eye could EASILY be flaunting 14-20+ inches of lusciousness.
So BlackHairOMG wants to make sure that more and more people realize this phenomenon on natural black hair.
So do you know someone that freaks out about having "short hair" when they go natural? Or do you know someone that has absolutely no clue about how much hair is actually contained in these beautifully coiled crowns of beauty?
If so, make sure you share these photos on your social media accounts and tag your friends so that they can recognize the majestic beauty contained in natural hair.
Are we being serious right now? I saw a commercial today for a weave loan store. The commercial was so patronizing and so ridiculous that I honestly thought it was made as some joke video made by some racist or mean-spirited "gender war" participants. But nope, it is a very real business.
Although the idea of a weave loan shop in itself is a bit weird, I wouldn't have had such a huge problem with it IF THE COMMERCIAL WEREN'T AN ABSOLUTE DISASTER. Hey, if someone thinks there is a need in the market for a weave loan shop...... Whatever (I guess), do your thing.
But I honestly would like to interview the weave loan shop owner that thought a commercial of a ghetto-grammared, weave slanglin' black woman with blonde hair and green eyes was a good idea.
That's how you want to represent your business? As a ghetto mess? Is that how you want your customers to be seen? You might want to change your advertising angle. All attention is not GOOD attention.
Look, some women wear weave. No big deal.
But who in their right mind would walk into this "place of business" after the buffoonery they make out of themselves and their customers?
Detailing The Foolishness In This Weave Loan Shop Commercial
I literally had to go to Google and put in... "Is the weave loan store commercial for real?". And unfortunately, I found out that, yes, it is very real. They even had a television news feature about them. This ridiculous weave shop commercial (which I have for you below), starts off with a black woman stomping her feet and crying because she can't afford to buy a good weave.
Then, the "spokeswoman" speaks in her best "stereotypical black girl voice", saying things like "Don't worry girl... get a weave loan and GET YOU SOME HAIR."
ARE WE BEING REAL RIGHT NOW???
Then, check this out. Instead of using the word "we've" they replace it with "weave".
For example they write about getting a weave loan and say "WEAVE made it as easy as 1,2,3!" and talking about the need to become beautiful, they write "WEAVE got you covered!".
How clever.....(Blank stare.)
But over everything else, I think the most offensive part of their poorly thought-out, unprofessional, stereotypical, piece-o-crap commercial, was that they inferred that you aren't beautiful until you can get weave in your head. One of their tag-lines is "Now you can afford to be beautiful!".
Maaaaaaaan, I wish I was lying about this. I still can hardly believe this is a real business, but they clearly have a real website, a real phone number and a real physical address on 8 Mile in Detroit, MI. (Nice job shaming my hometown...)
Anyway, I have the commercial from Youtube below, please share this article & leave your comments below, tell me what you think about these "business owners" and what you think of this weave loan store commercial.
Yup, I’m going there. I’m taking about some of the stupidest, silliest, and downright insulting assumptions natural hair stereotypes that are made about natural haired women.
We all get them and what makes it so shamefully sad is that many of these assumptions or stereotypes come from other women, co workers friends and even family members.
There are countless things to say about natural haired women that are positive, polite and perfectly right but if you’ve been natural for a while those comments are not as prevalent as the ones we’ll be discussing. Without further ado here are my top 10 stereotypes that naturalistas have to deal with daily:
Lee's Article Highlights:
Here are the 10 biggest stereotypes of naturals.
1. Natural are tree-hugging fanatics.
2. Naturals are political rebels.
3. All Naturals are vegan or vegetarian.
4. Naturals make all of their own products.
5. Naturals think women with relaxers are self-hating.
6. Some think natural hair is dirty (especially locs).
7. Naturals are hair obsessed.
8. All natural women love neo-soul or reggae.
9. All naturals are just fad-driven.
10. Natural hair is hard work.
♦ Some of these stereotypes are downright messed up (#6), some aren't that bad (nothing wrong with neo-soul and making your own hair products). But either way, you can't fit a whole group of people into a small box and that is often what happens. This was an interesting top 10 list of what some people think about when they see naturals. It goes without saying that people are often judged on their appearance, some more than others, so the way you choose to wear your hair will also be a factor. Some ladies won't care what people think and others will. But it never hurts to know what the leading perceptions (or misperceptions) are out there.
♦ I don't think these misperceptions should discourage, natural hair is becoming more and more mainstream and understood (and loved). Rockin' your natural hair with pride and living your truth will only do good things as far as perception is concerned, because at the end of the day, your natural hair is a VERY GOOD thing that God gave you for a reason.
Many people have mistaken beliefs about things they don't experience or don't see for themselves. Having more and more natural-haired women "stylin' on em" in the workplace, on the streets and wherever else will only prove what the natural hair movement really is. It's beautiful women reclaiming their natural beauty. No more, no less (in most circumstances).
This natural hair movement video carries a powerful message for women who have gone natural or those who are going natural. But Essence Farmer's video is also a bit controversial for some.
Although for the majority of women who viewed the video it's seen as highly-inspirational and it really communicated to them the fact that their natural hair, as well as themselves in totality, are naturally beautiful and MORE than acceptable. Some women had issues with the strong words in the natural hair movement speech.
Some women who are not interested in going natural have said that they were a bit turned off by the video. One woman said that she feels the naturalista in the video is preaching bias against women who choose not to go natural and in her opinion, that's equal to what "euro-centric society" is doing to black women as a whole. Making them feel not worthy of being seen as beautiful.
Well, I personally liked the message of the video and thought Essence did a great job with her anthem/poem. But I'll admit she does kind of "go in" on women who like to perm their hair and chemically straighten it. Check out the video...
I'll also say that not everybody thinks of women who don't go natural as weak or naive. Some women like what they like and that's it. Tell me what you think, does Essence's natural hair movement poem go to far? Or is she dead on?Let me know what you think below in the comment section.
This is going to sound like blasphemy to many in the natural hair community, but I really don’t care how long my hair is. Seriously. I’ve been natural since before the web was invented and I can honestly tell you, I really don’t care.
Now don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against ladies who track their hair’s progress by checking their locks’ length now and again.
I also don’t have anything against long hair. I definitely think that natural hair needs special attention, but so does the rest of my body and being that my hair grows from my body, I don’t think about one without the other. I think that’s why I’m not worried about...
Lee's Article Highlights:
Although overall this is a well-written article, I can't agree with a lot of it. Maybe there are a few "special" cases of women who desire short hair, but it's not normal. Just like some men may want to be short instead of tall, they'd be the exception to the rule.
I do recognize that the overall gist of the article is that the health of your natural hair is more important than its length. That I can wholeheartedly agree with, but it's not an "either or" situation.
The author highlights that the health of your scalp is just as important if not moreso than your ends because it’s what your hair grows out of, a great point, much more focus needs to be placed on scalp health.
What do you think? Is your hair length very important to you or is it no big deal? Comment below and let me know.
Black Girls Rock had Twitter on FIRE!!! Everybody was talking about the great performances, Will Smith's loving speech towards his beautiful wife of nearly 20 years, Jada Pinkett-Smith.
The ladies were loving how Fantasia was tearing the house down with her powerful voice and Michelle Obama repeating for a second and for emphasis, that "Black Girls Rock!".
I couldn't even keep up with all of the reaction and feedback on twitter. They are talking about it on the new Natural Hair Facebook Group, you basically can't go anywhere without hearing about the Black Girls Rock award show gala.
Black Hair OMG was on top of it all, and we expect a lot of reviews to be coming out all this week from just about everybody with a voice.
But we want to hear what you had to say? Specifically, what was your favorite moment of the night?
What do you think about the controversy and backlash over the event? Do you think an event like this is needed?
Here is an interview with the creator of the Black Girls Rock Even, CEO Beverly Bond and two young women she's mentoring, Sage Adams and Kathie Duperval. They join Melissa Harris-Perry of MSNBC to talk about the Black Girls Rock awards show on BET and why affirmation and representation are so crucial for black girls and women.
The interview above touched on some important points. It's good to hear affirmation of your worth when you have been neglected and disregarded for so long. The ladies are not trying to slight anyone else, they just feel it's important to encourage those who have been lacking it for so long as a group.
If you haven't seen the Official BGR Pledge, check it out below....
Ok, so again... What was your favorite moment of the night?
What do you think about the controversy and backlash over the event? Do you think the Black Girls Rock event is needed? Comment below right now.
Rhonda Lee had long been told that she needed to make her natural hair "more pleasing to a wider audience," she told HuffPost Live on Thursday, but she never expected her hair style to actually compromise her job.
Lee, an African American woman who currently works as a meteorologist for WeatherNation TV, recalled how comments she made in response to Internet vitriol targeting her hair ultimately led to her being fired by her former network.
Lee's Article Highlights:
Rhonda says it's a blessing and a curse that people can say exactly what they think about you at any given time on social media.
It's amazing to think people consider statements about your own hair "controversial", as Rhonda said, she didn't consider her hair to be controversial but something that grows out of her head.
Rhonda Lee was told on her job interview at KTBS 3 News, an ABC affiliate in Shreveport, Louisiana, that it was seen as "the white station" in town, later she was told she might want to change her hair to appeal to a "wider" audience.
It's like they automatically assume all black women are jealous and bald. My hair is to the middle of my back and I'm currently rocking a press. When I straighten my hair most people assume it's a weave and these women at my college are a hot mess.
They will literally keep running their hands through their hair then look back at you, like you're suppose to be upset. This is way to common and very annoying. Just had to rant, I know others have probably noticed this as well.
Lee's Article Highlights: This was an interesting mini-rant I noticed the other day on the lipstick alley forum. I honestly have never heard of this "phenomena" (as one forum member called it), my first reaction is to think the original poster is being a bit over-reactive. Women fuss with their hair, it's what they do. Just because someone with different hair from you fusses with it around you doesn't mean they are trying to make a statement. There really is no statement to make.
I did take note that many of the other forum commenters didn't notice this or think anything sinister was going on. Sometimes people need to worry about themselves more and not look for reasons to get upset. Don't get me wrong,
I'm sure it has happened before, but to assume a woman flipping their hair is directly against you is as crazy as saying that every woman that flips her hair around me "wants me" (which some guys actually think, lol). Fussing with their hair is a what women do. No need to read more into it.
Many women in the forum thread said that they played with their hair all the time so they aren't taking offense to someone of another race doing so.
Not to be discounted, many women identified with the mini-rant and said that they noticed this going on.
One of my favorite comments in the entire thread was " LOL. To be honest I don't typically pay attention to other women's hair regardless of race. I prefer my natural hair so even if another woman was trying to flaunt her hair I wouldn't have noticed because I wouldn't have cared." That's what I'm hollerin'!
I'm loving that Porsha's natural hair is looking so beautiful, I'm hating that she only shows it as a teaser to the next weave. I agree with Porsha's stylist, the constant weave is an illusion, I'd disagree that it's flawless though. The flaw is acting like your own hair isn't acceptable and not good enough to be seen in public.
Porsha looked naturally beautiful in her shortly-lived natural hair moment. Genuinely beautiful, but.... She feels the need to... Ahhh forget it. Do what you wanna do Porsha.
Porsha Williams is definitely a weave queen, it'll be interesting to see if that changes one day. Sometimes I have to wave the white flag and hope for the best, this is one those moments.
Red flag number one was when I sat down at the wash bowl and the woman started washing my hair aggressively with shampoo that was in an unmarked bottle. What exactly is in that bottle? No one knew.
They just knew that it was shampoo. Next, a different woman asked me if I wanted a deep conditioning treatment. My response was, ABSOLUTELY! The lady put a thin and runny conditioner on my head and sat me under a dryer. I already knew what was going to happen next.
Lee's Article Highlights:
The author (Portia Cole)feels that many hairstylists don't give two hoots about the customer's opinion about what should happen to their hair.
It was interesting that the author says she usually doesn't go to Dominican salons because something usually goes wrong. I'd like to know more about that.
After Portia got her hair done, she may have wanted to "turn up" on somebody (and many lesser women would have) but she kept it ladylike. Slappin' somebody wasn't gonna bring her hair back.
Would you feel,"some kinda way" if your daughter's teacher took it upon herself to change your child's hair because her hair appeared unkempt?
What about if she posted before and after pics to her Facebook account?
There’s a picture (to the left, to the left...) going around the social media world right now of a young black girl who had her hair done (quite beautifully, I might add...) by her teacher in class because her hair had lint in it and it looked a bit uncared for.
It seems that the child's teacher had her heart in the right place, she wanted the little girl to look good and feel good about herself.
She decided she would give the little girl a new "do" and brighten up her day. But if she had permission to do so or not is not very clear. And if she did have permission to do it, did she also have permission to post pics of the child on social media?
I'd think that would be more than a little bit embarrassing for the parents, even if they were happy about the hair help. Check out the Facebook post below.
I have serious doubts that the little girl's parent would take kindly to the description of her hair when she entered class, even if the description was somewhat accurate. She writes:
So one of my students came to school today with he hair full of knots, lent [sic], and ridiculously tangled. It looked like it hand’t been touched the entire holiday break…so my classroom became a salon. The photo on the left is before and the right after . It just broke my heart so badly that I refused to let her leave school today the same way she came. When I finished she looked at herself and said “aww so pretty”…the beauty is that she is normally non-verbal. So now I’m crying lol. My day has been made!
Do you think this teacher was out-of-line or just being a good-hearted helper to the child that couldn't resist doing something nice?
I personally think she did a nice thing out of kindness when she did the girls hair, BUT, if she didn't have permission she still was out-of-line. Even so, it was nice for the little girl, and probably very embarrassing to the parents.
Especially after it went viral on the net. At least the teacher didn't show the girl's face though.
In the end, the teacher should not be villianized for her actions, but she may want to be more conscious of her boundaries with other people's children. And maybe the girl's parents will be more conscious of getting the lint out of that baby's hair before she goes into public.
UPDATE! 11:45 AM 1/11/2015
Although we still have not heard anything from the parents, one woman is claiming to know the teacher and be a part of her Facebook group. She claims that the teacher had permission to do the girl's hair as well as post pics of it online. This is just one woman's claim, so take it for what it's worth.
What do you think about this situation? Comment below.
Let me paint you a picture. For many of you, it is a picture that will look familiar; a picture that describes the humiliation and fury millions of black women feel on a regular basis all across America.
Your hair is in need of professional attention, so you head to your favorite salon. You get there and you take a seat in the waiting area. And you wait. And you wait. And…
Finally, you’re taken to the shampoo bowl, where you wait some more. Eventually, your hair gets washed and conditioned. And you wait—with a wet head. All the while, you listen to inane conversation not fit for public consumption.
You finally are ushered to the dryer, where you sit until the timer goes off. Then you sit and watch client after client go to your stylist’s chair to be serviced. You wonder where you fit in, whether you’ve been bypassed for someone with an appointment after yours.
Now you’re more than just anxious; now you’re angry. Angry and hungry. Just when you’re about to lose it, you get called over to the stylist’s chair. But it’s almost too late. You’re infuriated, disgusted and, above all, disappointed.
By the time you have been styled and stop at the front desk to pay, you’ve been there for six hours.
This is where black hair salons have, for decades, failed black women.
Editor’s Note: The ladies over at the Lipstick Alley forum are involved in a lively topic, the conversation started from of an article that was posted in 2012 but the problem is as big today as ever. "How long will women deal with shoddy service at black hair salons?".
As someone who has had to wait on many women(Mom, sisters, girlfriends, etc,) that were wasting the day away at the salon, I am interested in the answer. There's a saying, "it is what it is...", is that the point of view that has become the norm or should more be expected for your hard-earned dollars.
Why aren't more salons rising up to take advantage of the horrible customer service that runs rampant in the industry? The opportunity is there for the taking. I'm sure the women needing their hair done in under 5-7 hours without attitude would even pay more money for efficient service.
This is most definitely a hot-button subject, at the time of this writing that specific forum thread has hit the 5th page of comments and is still rolling. Please let me know in the comment section if you are still accepting bad service from your hair salon, if so, why? Here are our forum article highlights:
These places go about business in this ridiculous way, as if that is the way it should be, as if it is all right, acceptable.
But how, when most stylists never worked in a “real” job where they were required to be on time, dress professionally, conduct business in a respectful manner?
Women are tired of the hairdresser having an attitude that they are doing the paying customer a favor.
A little over a year ago, a group of black women caused quite a stir when they stood in New York City’s Union Square with signs that said, “You can touch my hair.”
Billed as an “interactive public art exhibit,” their event allowed anyone to “explore the tactile fascination with black hair by” touching real-life black hair on real-life black women.
Many black people were outraged at this display, but many were encouraged and uplifted.
Some thought the women subjected themselves to being treated like animals at a petting zoo. Some thought the women were opening lines of communication with people who may not understand ethic differences but aren't bad people because of that.
Look.... We're all human and want to be treated with equal respect. However, I think the main thing here is these beautiful black women are opening themselves up to the world in order to give insight to people who are curious, as well as shed some light on how women in general feel about their hair. As one woman in the video said, some women are more closed off, some are very open, and some feel their hair is an extension of their spirituality or their very being, so that is why it is so closely guarded. I think it's interesting that these women are willing to give this experience to people with absolutely none of black hair. Overall, I feel that without curiosity you can never learn or grow.
But yes, there is a definite line that shouldn't be crossed. Never force your curiosity on someone, especially if you don't know them. I think one of the women in the video was correct in saying that people should make friends first or at least be in a close enough relationship/acquaintance to warrant asking about personal hygiene. Giving compliments, admiring, asking how they get their hair so shiny, those things shouldn't be so taboo though.
At the end of the day, these videos are a nice gateway to not feel so shy or like it's taboo to talk or ask questions about things that we as humans have to deal with on a day-to-day basis like hair care, skin care, fashion, lifestyle etc. Just don't go touching people all random schmandom, you might get hurt that way. Here are our video highlights:
Black women feel persecuted for their hair and for good reason.
Some people are "honestly ignorant" and those are the people tht can be helped understand the differences in human beings.
Hair is an emotional topic of conversation for many women.
Sims, in her unusual stand, contends that hair regulations are biased against the natural hairstyles of many African-American women, and her career is evidence they are ambiguous at best: She wore her hair in the same style for nine years in the Navy before being ordered to cut it.
She said: "I don't think I should be told that I have to straighten my hair in order to be within what they think the regulations are, and I don't think I should have to cover it up with a wig."
“I do think that it’s a race issue,” Sims said. “The majority of the hairstyles that have the strictest regulations are hairstyles that black women would wear.”
The Navy, however, argued that all dreadlocks are out of regs, and because she has refused to cut them or cover them up, moved to honorably discharge her for “serious misconduct.”
Editor’s Note: This story isn't a surprise to me, for the longest time natural black hair has been held in contempt. I find it weird that after years and years of wearing her hair in this manner, always neat, clean and within two inches of her head she suddenly is forced to change it or get out. The Navy has since relaxed their standards for women's hair but it's still slanted towards not fully accepting natural black hairstyles. But the story has a happy ending because Jessica aint sweatin' it, she got her discharge papers with her hair on her head and her dignity intact, now she's headed to Loyola University in Chicago where she will major in biology as a pre-med. Do your thang Jessica! Here are our article highlights:
Jessica Sims says the Navy's order amounted to shaving off her locks and wearing a wig which she wasn't going to do.
Sims says she always made sure that her hair bun didn't protrude more than 2 inches from her head, per Navy regulations.
She is happy she took a stand and says she would do it again, she doesn't feel her natural hair is "unprofessional".
I try to remember that there’s room to think about large-scale, urgent matters of social justice and microaggressions (a term that’s made a recent resurgence to refer to race-related, irksome interactions that add up and alienate people on a daily basis). Truthfully, anything to do with black women and hair runs a pretty high risk of slipping into the latter category.
Editor’s Note: Jenée Desmond-Harris delivers a useful answer to a question she received from a white gentleman. The man had given a compliment to a black woman who was rockin' an amazing afro. He wanted to know if he was out of place or not.
Personally, I find it a sad reality that society is so jacked up that we can't compliment someone without worrying if we are offending them, but when society is so laced with racism, prejudice and bias it's not a shock that people are wary of the intentions of comments from strangers who normally are not known to be complimentary towards anything out of the "mainstream" look. I hope that in the future natural women are truly accepted and get so many genuine compliments that it won't be an issue anymore. Here the 3 tips for successful complimenting:
Do not touch if you don't KNOW you have permission to touch.
Compliment, don’t interrogate.
Don't make a scene, regardless of good intentions.